We find in the Song of Solomon a statement that is repeated throughout the book and that being “do not awaken love before it’s time”. What does that speak to you? The fact that Solomon emphasizes it at least three times must illustrate it’s importance, right?
Do you or I truly understand what it is to be in love? Love is not a sticky gooey warm blanket that makes you feel euphoric, ecstatic and floating in the clouds and on top of the world. That can be described as what can be an “effect” or “after-effect” of love.
Is love susceptible to being received or requited? It is indeed not. It is unconditional and subject to neither.
Love is not a feeling nor emotion, but rather is purely “a choice”. Freely received and freely given. It is not conditional upon whether or not it is reciprocated.
Earlier this morning I was awakened “by love”. I remembered those I had offered my love to yesterday as I walked through my neighborhood. Some saw me and some did not. I was not walking to “be seen or acknowledged but rather to extend from the core of my being a love that stems from a radical infinite love I am given every moment. “Jesus loves me this I know, because His very words informed me and tells me so and ignited a presence within that blazes as a fire ever so bright. Faith arose within my heart to receive what surpasses my understanding and this fully fulfills and satisfies immensely “until” my head enters the picture to try to tell me this is not enough. Thoughts of insufficient or lack nature are a lie. So we feel rejected or unloved.
Is this not what entraps many of us in life? Therefore we may hold back and not offer what God created to be freely and unconditionally given and received.
Have you pushed away and refused the love of another that has been offered to you?
Have you rather placed conditions before that individual on whether you can receive their gift of love or not?
“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)
If this is true then how can we hold on to in our hearts feelings of rejection that stem from something someone else has said or done “to us” intentionally or inadvertently. When perhaps they realize or not that they spoke or acted out of response in a moment that was not given reflection first. As to the nature of that thought or thoughts, we therefore can harbor “what occurred”. Is forgiveness offered and even if it has not, are you first willing to offer it anyway?
How many times has a sense of “unrequited love” led to destructive behavior that delivers incomprehensible wounds deeply to the heart? How much time often elapses while such repercussions remain unresolved? Why does such drama continue on inflicting the wound deeper and deeper? Why is resolution not sought? Why is it procrastinated?
Is this not rooted in one’s sense of the need to be right? Yes, sadly it is. Over this we “resist” one another. On and on it goes.
Why do we choose or not choose to love another? Each and every one of us were brought into this world with the same original intention of an all-wise and all- loving God. The process by which we went through upon that entry and through the course of life that we have experienced has effected our journey thereof most certainly.
What does that have to do with whether we give or receive love or not? I will ask that you ponder what I have brought up here this morning and then ask yourself “Do I truly grasp what love truly is and actualize through how I walk out life a reflection that “love is a choice”?
A song from the heart is spontaneously sung and a sonnet is first contemplated into a perfect rhyme before it is given to expression. What is your choice when it comes to love; song or sonnet? I leave that to rest with you today. God bless.